I'm curious to get your thoughts on something that's come up at work this week.

A couple of weeks ago, one of my friends at work confided in me that she and her husband have been having issues and are now in the process of separating. It's obvious to me that she has no interest in talking about it at work, but we're set to have drinks later this week so she can fill me in on what's been going on.

Late last week, another coworker that I'm friendly with commented that he noticed that coworker #1 hasn't been wearing her wedding ring and wondered aloud if something is up. I said I didn't know and that it's not really any of our business, hoping that would end that. Yesterday, he started up about it again, trying to analyze some language she used when talking about her weekend, e.g.: "the boy and I went out," etc. I again just played dumb and changed the subject.

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Do I mention this to my friend when we have drinks on Thursday? On the one hand, I think I'd want to know if people were murmuring about me in the halls. On the other, it is really no one's business but hers and I don't want her to feel like she's the subject of major gossip (coworker #2 is the only one I've heard mention anything) or like she has to be self-conscious about what she says, how she acts, etc.

As a coworker, I have no interest in gossip and don't want to contribute to it. As a friend, I feel obligated to say something. Thoughts?