I have a question. Is it okay for someone who lives across the country and was actually coming out to visit someone else β€” but who knew that they were going to visit you too (it wasn't a spur of the moment decision) β€” to only give you twelve hours to drop everything and prepare for their visit? They're neither friends nor close relatives.

I'm asking because I lack the social graces necessary to know whether it's okay to do this. I wouldn't do this, but maybe I'm the oddball here. They've done this to me every damn stinking time β€” there's never any warning and it always feels like a snap inspection.